My Secret Garden
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My Secret Garden: Women’s Sexual Fantasies is a 1973 book compiled by Nancy Friday, who collected women's fantasies through letters and tapes and personal interviews.[1] After including a female sexual fantasy in a novel she submitted for publishing, her editor objected, and Friday shelved the novel. After other women began writing and talking about sex publicly, Friday began thinking about writing a book about female sexual fantasies, first collecting fantasies from her friends, and then advertising in newspapers and magazines for more.[2] She organized these narratives into "rooms", and each is identified by the woman's first name, except for the last chapter, "odd notes", which is presented as the "fleeting thoughts" of many anonymous women. The book revealed that women fantasize, just as men do, and that the content of the fantasies can be as transgressive, or not, as men's. The book, the first published compilation of women's sexual fantasies,[3] challenged many previously accepted notions of female sexuality.
My Secret Garden sold at least 2 million copies[4] and was translated to at least 10 languages[5]. It was banned in the Irish Republic.[6]
A sequel, Forbidden Flowers: More Women’s Sexual Fantasies, followed in 1975.
Contents
Chapter One: The Power of Fantasies
Chapter Two: Why Fantasies?
- Frustration
- Insufficiency
- Sex enhancement
- Foreplay
- Approval
- Exploration
- Sexual initiative
- Insatiability
- Daydreams
- Masturbation
- The lesbians
Chapter Three: What do women fantasize about?
- Anonymity
- The audience
- Rape
- Pain and masochism
- Domination
- The sexuality of terror
- The thrill of the forbidden
- Transformation
- The earth mother
- Incest
- The zoo
- Black men
- Young boys
- The fetishists
- Other women
- Prostitution
Chapter Four: The source of women's fantasies
- Childhood
- Sounds
- Women do look
- Seeing and reading
- Random associations
Chapter Five: Guilt and Fantasy
- Women's Guilt
- Men's Anxiety
Chapter Six: Fantasy accepted
- Fantasies
- Fantasies that should be reality
- Acting out fantasies
- Sharing fantasies
Chapter Seven: Odd notes
See also
- Forbidden Flowers
The play
In 2009, the book was adapted into a full length stage play Multiple O: Women on Top. Playwright John Sable chose Women on Top (another book by Nancy Friday) as the play's title largely due to its more provocative connotation.
References
- ^ Sumrell, Robert; Varnelis, Kazys (2010). "Green Screens: Modernism's Secret Garden". In Tilder, Lisa; Blostein, Beth (eds.). Design Ecologies: Essays on the Nature of Design. Princeton Architectural Press. p. 88. ISBN 978-1-56898-783-5.
- ^ Friday, Nancy (2001). My Secret Garden: Women's Sexual Fantasies. Quartet Books. pp. 7–17. ISBN 978-0-7043-3294-2.
- ^ Foerstel, Herbert N. (2002). Banned in the U.S.A.: A Reference Guide to Book Censorship in Schools and Public Libraries. Greenwood Publishing Group. p. 248. ISBN 978-0-313-31166-6.
- ^ Smith, Harrison (6 November 2017). "Nancy Friday, best-selling chronicler of women's erotic fantasies, dies at 84". The Washington Post.
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: CS1 maint: url-status (link) - ^ "Editions of My Secret Garden: Women's Sexual Fantasies by Nancy Friday". www.goodreads.com. Retrieved 12 August 2024.
- ^ "Banned Publications", The Irish Times, Friday 19 November 1976 (pg. 4)
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